Couples Counseling
“For if in your fear you would seek only love’s peace and love’s pleasure then it is better for you that you pass out of love’s threshing-floor into the seasonless world where you shall laugh but not all of your laughter and weep, but not all of your tears. ”
Kahlil Gibran
“The journey of a thousand miles begins with the first step. ” Lao Tzu
Anyone can get divorced. But not anyone can repair a broken relationship. Whatever stage of relationship you are in, couples counseling can help clear the air so you can see the truth.
I see a couple for two hours every other week. I find this to be most effective as, after the first hour, that’s when things really start rolling and we can do some deeper work. Then you have two weeks at home to practice your new communication skills.
One of the main things I have noticed with couples work is that it’s often not the things that are being said between you that cause the most trouble, it’s the things that aren’t said. Creating a safe space to do this kind of deep sharing is the bulwark of my practice with couples. This kind of honesty and courage paves the way back to the love and trust. This exercise in truth is powerful and in most cases sets the relationship free from the cobwebs of deceit and renews the energy of the initial love and commitment.
If there are substance abuse issues, infidelity, or compulsive gambling the picture gets murkier. I work with couples who both want to make it work.
Sometimes it’s too late to repair the rupture in the relationship. Although divorce is costly in every respect, couples counseling can greatly assist you in the divorce and co parenting process so that this enormous change can be accomplished with grace and maturity and hopefully, without lawyers!! Your children are watching you and learning how they will be in relationship.
“Your children will become who you are so be what you want them to be.”
Robert Bly
